Moving in!

Dear Clover,5 years ago

I'm about to move in with my girlfriend, but I've been reading all kinds of studies about how bad this could be for the relationship. The studies often cite the man not being ready, but I don't think that's a problem. What happens if we get stuck together when we're not ready?

Should we get married first? Will people judge us? What should we do?!


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Dear anonymous,5 years ago

You're reading too much into the studies, stop researching statistics and do what is right for you two as a couple. You and your girlfriend have made a decision to move in together based on knowledge of your relationship; not on a pie chart where you don't know the exact criteria or the people conducting it. Don't move in together with the preconceived notion you aren't ready to take the step because some other men weren't ready. That will only set you up for failure when there is no need to. Instead, start with a blank chalkboard and strive to be included in the percentages of couples who are successful.

Jump in with both feet and live as you want, don't let any judgement dictate where and with whom you should live your life. If you find you aren't ready, one of you will move out, and you can chalk it up to experience. It won't be the end of your life, just the end of that chapter. If it works out, you can move onto a whole new book and think about getting married

Good luck in whatever you decide.


Dear anonymous,5 years ago

I moved in with my boyfriend 3 years ago; it was the best thing I've ever done. People won't judge you and if they do it's their problem. I believe the only way to know if you're ready is to sit down the both of you with your parents and ask them about their experiences you wouldn't believe how helpful that is. And no I dont think you should get married first that would not be a good move just so people won't judge you get married when you are ready. Move in and enjoy each other it's a great feeling waking up next each other everyday!!!! Good Luck hope I helped :)


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