What is love?

Dear Clover,118 years ago

As I get older, my friends often say that they've found their soul mate. I've dated many women, but I'm not sure what makes love real. I've considered that I'm too shallow or just not ready to commit. I'm dating someone now and I like her but I'm not sure if I should move forward.

How will I know if this love is real?

anonymous

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Dear anonymous,118 years ago

It's a matter of expectations and practicality. I was pretty "picky" but it came down to whether or not I was willing to let the woman I was with go forever. I gave it a lot of thought, and ultimately decided I wasn't willing to let that happen. We've been married 10 years now.

I'm not a big believer in soulmates. Yes, I love my wife and she's the one for me but I think I could've been happy with other people as well. The earth is just too big to say otherwise.

pablo85

Dear anonymous,118 years ago

Do you ever get that feeling of dread in the pit of your stomach when you have to go to the dentist, or as we like to say, the long walk to the principal's office? Love, for me is having that same feeling but it isn't dreadful, it is sort of like butterflies of anticipation. I have been married for 20 years now, to whom I believe is my soul mate, and I still get that 'can't wait' feeling at least once a day.

If you have a dog, think about what happens when you walk through the door, they run around in circles, tails wagging, barks of happiness, but when you look in their eyes, I swear you can see the look of unconditional love. I know, it sounds stupid, but it comes to mind when I want to describe what love feels and looks like. However, if my husband starts bringing me raw-hides or milk bones, I'm going to have to rethink my whole perception.

Aunt_Lucy