Hopelessy Confused

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Dear fifteen & fading,4 years ago

Assuming he's not gay and doesn't constantly talk about other girls then he probably does like you. Unfortunately a lot of guys are timid, especially at that age. Even though you'd prefer he make the first move, you might have to wait a long time. I know it's hard but your best bet is to tell him (a little) of how you feel and ask him if he wants to make your friendship more of a boy-girl relationship.
Your other option is to ask one your friends or his friends to try to find out if he has feelings for you.
It's true that if it doesn't work out the way you hope, the nature of your friendship may altered but that will happen eventually anyway as you both eventually graduate and move on with your lives. Good luck!!


Dear fifteen & fading,4 years ago

There's a saying, "no risk, no reward" which you should keep in mind if what you're worried about is ruining a good friendship. You need to take a little risk by letting him know what you're thinking and if he's truly a good friend you should be able to keep your friendship even if he's not interested, although based on what you write it sounds like he is interested. On the other hand if it's that you're afraid of relationships then you should just take it slow and do what is comfortable in your situation.


Dear fifteen & fading,4 years ago

There is no time like the present to jump in the water with both feet. I had a friend exactly like that starting in high school, and I still have a good relationship with him to this day. Just as you, my parents just loved him. Everything was different if I was with him instead of other friends, I could stay out longer, go out even if I was grounded, you know what I'm talking about.

I talked to him about everything, and boy do I mean everything. Conversations came easy between us and we never judged one another. Open lines of communication are one of the most important features of relationships. If you can't talk to someone about everything, what's the point? Both of you seem to have feelings for each other, so don't get caught up in those silly games people play in the beginning of relationships. If you like him, tell him, it's your friendship that matters most, not who tells who first.

Whether you end up dating or not, from what you have described, your friendship is strong enough to survive something like this. Don't pass up the chance of finding a soul-mate, because he didn't tell you first. People usually say soul-mates are right under your nose, you just aren't seeing it. Take a chance on yourself and find out what could be so you don't have to spend your life wondering what could have been.


Dear fifteen & fading,12 months ago

Be patient and spend time with him alone. Flirt with him.