Dear Scarlett,50 years ago
Sounds to me like a battle your mom should be fighting and not you Scarlett. It's always very difficult before, during and after divorce, but the financial details should be worked out by your seperated parents and by no means should have nothing to do with it.
It's also hard to be stuck in the middle of a situation without taking sides, but it seems you have taken a side and I think it has a lot to do with all of the statements made about your dad. Try not to listen to anyone; even your mom, when they talk about your dad. It's unfair that he is not there to defend himself and remember there are always two sides to every story. Let him give you a chance to provide his. The way he treats you could be a mirror of how you have been treating him, you need to have a daughter-father conversation and make peace with yourself and your dad. You'll have a much better relationship and life if you are able to put the past away and start fresh with a whole new attitude. The best of luck to you, and please come back to give us updates.
Dear Scarlett,49 years ago
As Aunt Lucy says, you might want to try to be more understanding with your dad and try to consider things from his point of view. However if that doesn't work out, just be confident in yourself and maintain a strong relationship with your brother. In just a few more years you'll be old enough to choose to put him out of your life so just be patient. Try not to spend your time and energy in ways to get revenge or make him suffer. Any pleasure you get will be fleeting and it will be worse for your own psyche in the long run.